“If you don’t stop apologizing, you’re going to convince me you’ve done something wrong.”— Kate Morton
Today’s challenge topic was originally planned to be something else. Now don’t worry, it’s still going to make an appearance. But life with three kids happened yesterday and I felt lead to speak on this now. So we are going to talk about giving ourselves grace and stop using I’m sorry unnecessarily.
When I had a jam packed day yesterday {hello back to school week} and couldn’t get to my computer to type up the blog post for Day 7 my first thought was I need to apologize. Then I sat with that feeling for a minute and realized I wasn’t, in fact, sorry. I felt bad, certainly, because I hadn’t lived up to the bargain I made with myself and my readers {thanks ya’ll} that I would post and share every day of this challenge. But I wasn’t truly sorry. Why not? Because I had the most amazing day with my children on the eve of Back to School Eve. We had pool time, grandpa time, back to school hair cuts, lunch, puppy time, met our new teachers as well as new and old friends. It was packed to the brim, but it was AMAZING! And I knew that I could still write what I planned and get it posted this morning. I’ll have two posts today, no biggie.
Then I started thinking about how many times we (especially women) say I’m sorry, when it’s not what we mean at all. We seem to use it as a filler for when we don’t know what to say. We now use it in place of Excuse me when we think we are in someones way or when someone is in OUR way. Does that even make sense? It’s like we are apologizing for our existence. Newsflash: this is not healthy. Try and be conscious today of how many times you say it, I think you’ll be shocked. It’s one of those habits we aren’t even aware we’ve developed. And we need to stop. Keep I’m sorry for those times when you truly are sorry like when someone is sick, injured or you have hurt someone. I’m sorry will have so much more meaning when we stop using it when we don’t mean it.
Light and Love,
♥k
(I’m going to start using another word when I feel compelled to say sorry. I haven’t figured the word out yet, but I’ll keep you posted. Let me know in the comments if there’s something you use instead of sorry. I’d love to hear your ideas.)